Thoughts

Sometimes I get so caught up in planning this huge party that I forget what it's really all about. Jacob has done a wonderful job of reminding me of just how much we love each other, and that after the big day is come and gone, we're going to have our new little family. The years of talking and dreaming and wishing will finally be reality.

And I just had my first real wedding breakdown. I started reading the following passage to Jacob and it hit me... and I just couldn't hold it in. Note to self: wear waterproof makeup and carry a big handkerchief.

"Union" by Robert Fulghum

You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry.

From that moment of yes, to this moment of yes, indeed, you have been making commitments in an informal way. All of those conversations that were held in a car, or over a meal, or during long walks – all those conversations that began with, “When we’re married”, and continued with “I will” and “you will” and “we will” – all those late night talks that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe” – and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart.All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding.

The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, “You know all those things that we’ve promised, and hoped, and dreamed – well, I meant it all, every word.”

Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many things to one another – acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner, even teacher, for you have learned much from one another these past few years. Shortly you shall say a few words that will take you across a threshold of life, and things between you will never quite be the same.